If you’re 21 or older by now you’ve had a true dose of Valentine’s Day. Men you think it’s the most expensive day of the year, and was orchestrated by a female devil and women believe the men have 364 days to plan and plan carefully—no excuses! Well I have advice for the men from a woman’s perspective. First of all, my birthday IS on Valentine’s Day and having been with my husband for two plus decades I can honestly say I’ve NEVER been disappointed, robbed, cheated, etc. He’s never played the two-in-one gift idea from the start. Did I set the tone, honestly yes, BUT now that we are older I will share with you what truly matters. I absolutely love fresh flowers and when we were younger he bought them frequently. Once we started having a family and our budget was altered and priorities changed, I hated that roses were almost triple the cost on V-Day so I told him NOT to buy them; that was absurd. Seeing that I love fresh flowers so much I told him he could buy them for me anytime EXCEPT V-Day.
Anyway, I’m guessing by now you have done some research and have discovered several creative ways to celebrate the big day. I’m here to share with you some pretty doable tips for a “successful” night, key word successful.
1) Make plans early. If you haven’t already, pause reading this blog and go and make your dinner reservations NOW! At least try, good luck. Most places were booked months ago. The place should be special to both of you and maybe have some history/meaning behind it. You should have done the same for a sitter. Hello they have a sweetheart too. If it’s too late you now know for next year.
2) Cooking for your honey bunches of oats. This too should be planned at least a few days in advance. Shop for all your food ingredients (try NOT to do carry-out), get some V-Day décor (can be found anywhere even the Dollar store), bouquet of flowers ($15), music selection on Pandora, some candles, create the ambiance. They will appreciate the effort it took to transform your home into something special. This is too easy to do; truly no excuses.
3) Spending time together ALONE. The night is about the two of you, not a double date with your BFFs at the Melting Pot or a family gathering at Bucca di Peppo, no third wheels allowed. Find a sitter or tuck the kids in early.
4) NO PHONES! Turn them off, take out the batteries—do what you have to, no checking your social media statuses, responding to emails, no selfies. I swear phones and technology have totally taken over our lives and we have become walking reality shows (yes I’m guilty as charged), but for this one night give your loved one 100% of yourself. You can gloat and tweet about it on 2/15.
5) Finally, keep it positive and end with a “bang.”– This may be used as time to refresh and uplift each other; reminisce about great memories, dream about the future. This is not the time to discuss bills and why the car note has not yet been paid—do that another time. Trust me after all of that love chat, a fabulous meal, spending quality time together, your night should end with a bang (wink wink).
Like Christmas, it’s just another day. All that I’ve mentioned is done regularly in my relationship so there’s no added stress when the day comes. Practice the above and you too could avoid the stress and pressure of the dreaded Valentine’s Day.