Relationships and marriages, like parenting, is a job. It takes work to make it successful. Even though my relationship with my husband is amazing there is always room for improvement and areas for growth. With that said, people are always curious as to why one couple’s relationship is so successful while others struggle, eventually ending in divorce. In this article, written by fellow guest blogger and friend Phillip Deems, the couple approached their relationship as a “business.” Your first thought about the idea may have taken you aback, but once read you’ll quickly realize that the analogies and his colloquial perspectives make sense. At the end of the day, as long as both individuals are thriving, love and respect each other, and they are truly happy then that’s all that matters!
The Business of Relationships
I personally think that everything can and should be run like a business. Even relationships! I know what you are thinking. “Businesses are cold and uncaring…Relationships are warm and fuzzy.” Ummmm, yes okay I get that. But hear me out on this one.
I learned this from my wife a long time ago. She knew what she wanted in life after several failed relationships. I mean she literally defined it in her head. Let me give you one example. If I did not ask her to marry me after two years of dating, she said we would just have to move on. (Anyone who knows my wife is laughing right now because they know this is true…No Joke.) Now as cold as that may sound…she was right. Why waste any more years if I wasn’t “The One”. That is time that could have been spent on finding “The One”. (If you believe in that sort of thing.) Thank goodness that we turned out to be best friends. I would have been stupid not to ask her to marry me. If we weren’t compatible, that would have been the perfect time to just call it quits.
So what does that have to do with business? Thanks for asking!
My wife came up with a Business Proposal. (Relationship plan) She defined what she wanted in life and she executed on that proposal as precisely as she could have. She looked at her return on investment (time with me) and calculated whether I was a business that she wanted to build a long-term relationship with. Now she is the CEO of the company and is happy running the business that is our life. She enjoys her career with our company and as long as there is low overhead (arguments) and huge profit margins (love and dedication), then she will retire as CEO. Now don’t get me wrong…I help run the company (call me the…CFO 🙂 ), but honestly, she was the one who started the business. Literally.
Moral? You only have so many years on this earth, so make your choices in life based on a set of principles. Build your life proposal and then execute! Focus on what you want and go get it. Calculate your next move and make sure that you see a return on your investment. If you see a business, (a relationship) that you would like to be a part of, build a killer resume (date), sell yourself (ummmmm…sex), get hired (engagement), and work your way up to President of the company (hello wedding day!). If it turns out to be a career that you are passionate about, (warm and fuzzy) then you know you will retire a wealthy person. (Love = Rich)
If you are passionate about your business it will not only survive, it will thrive!