“Sex,” some are excited by the word while others may be repulsed or feel pressured by it. Couples can openly talk about friends and finances, sports and mindless television, but the moment the topic of sex rears its head the sphincter muscles are suddenly tightened. Why is it such a dreaded topic? Sex was referenced in the very first book of the bible, Genesis. “And Adam knew his wife; and she conceived.” It is meant to be a beautiful thing.
So how does one achieve a healthy sexual relationship with their mate? Here are some points to consider:
- Engage in intimate talks with your spouse. It’s solely about the conversation, but also consider the tone of your voice and your body language. If you’re communicating in a loud manner, abrasive, aggressively tossing your hands about, walking away while your spouse is talking to you, texting, watching TV, let’s be honest, nothing about that is sexy or inviting. In these intimate talks, discuss each other’s likes and dislikes. Great intimate conversations stimulates the desire for intimacy.
- Discuss positions and fantasies. Women don’t wait for the men to make the first move or assume they know what you like and don’t like. Remember when you ASSume…well, you know the rest. Be specific about what your wants and desires are. Men it’s not all about you. A healthy and great sex life is about you wanting to please your partner first, and by the way this goes both ways. Couples with a healthy sex life are most like to have a healthy marriage.
- Foreplay has no time limit. The longer the foreplay the more enjoyable sex can be. Besides it’s everything that leads up to the happy ending that is most pleasurable. The happy ending is just that…an ending…it’s O-V-E-R!
- Finally, sex should start at the front door not in the bedroom. When your spouse comes home from a long stressful day at work, greet them with an affectionate hug maybe coupled with a pleasurable kiss. From that, you may talk about the best part of the day over dinner or a glass of wine. Remember to keep the tone and the body language in check. After that consider taking a bath together. Be creative. I’m sure you can see where this is all going.
When both partners are sexually satisfied and you are both on the same page regarding the quantity and the quality of your sex life, it decreases the chances for infidelity. Become your partner’s best friend and confidant when it comes to intimacy. Leave no room for an intruder to take your place. Communication is key in all aspects of your relationship, with sex communication is imperative.
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