What is fear of success about? And is it real? Well let’s start with what it’s about. The fear of success is about change and what life will be like as a result or an outcome of the “success.” Change means new experiences, it means being uncomfortable which can be scary. For example, you’ve worked hard and as a result you’ve accumulated wealth, how will friends and family react to you? Can you still be friends with certain people now that you’re in a different income bracket? Many say they can and will go along for the ride, but once the ride arrives at the final destination, “success,” people change. Another example, someone who was once overweight and overlooked, has now lost the weight “successfully” and has developed great self-esteem and confidence. That may now be perceived as conceit and arrogance resulting in the loss of friendships. Its examples such as these that people will talk themselves out of doing something they really want to do; self-sabotage.
This leads to the next question, is it real? Most definitely it is. People fear success because they think it may create attack from the enemy. With success comes attention, good and bad. Those that are very private in nature may become overwhelmed by it; even backing away. There are countless stories of celebrities who refused to succumb to their success and revert to prior lifestyle.
You can fear success subconsciously. Signs that you are doing this:
- you start to make excuses,
- you may be easily annoyed by things that wouldn’t have bothered you in the past,
- you can’t focus,
- constantly stalling or putting things off,
- you become unproductive, etc.
I’ve found myself in this predicament before and thanks to my incredible support system of family and friends it’s redirected and focused on the positive aspect as to why I was pursuing the goal to begin with.
It’s hard changing your life but don’t let the fear of success prevent you from pursuing your dreams. You can handle it!