Praising your partner is such a small matter, but extremely essential for building a successful relationship. However, I do believe that as women we need it more than men which is why I’m agreeing with today’s tip submission from Edwin H., “remember to compliment her to the point she still feels you are attracted to her.” As women it doesn’t matter what age we are we always find something to complain about or we just aren’t happy about something even if only for a moment. That’s a given, that’s just who we are. Not always, but we wake up in the morning and we don’t like SOMETHING (God forbid it’s that time of month), we feel bloated, we feel fat, we’re too thin, wish my butt was bigger, why do I have bat wings, are those crow’s feet, my hair is too thin, it’s too dark, it’s too short, I wish my cheekbones were different, I wish I had a dimple, I ‘m too shy, why am I so short….it’s always something! That’s just who we are, how we were made and guess what I’m okay with it and so is my husband. He gets it…thank goodness! He compliments me regularly and it feels good. It tells me he’s still very much attracted to me. I might not necessarily agree with his compliments, but I’ve learned that I should not negate them.. He once pointed out that he was going to stop because I always nullified what he said. That habit came to a screeching halt. Agree or not, I accept his compliments. Might I add, it’s important that women compliment their men, as I often do, but this article isn’t about them it’s about US (smile).
Men here are a few tips on complimenting your woman:
One of my favorite sayings, “it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.” It’s all in the delivery. If you’re going on a date with your wife and she is getting all dolled up, exits the bedroom and she is stunning then by all means tell her just that, “darling you are stunning tonight!” On the contrary, if she’s had the stomach flu for three days and she looks like death DON’T say “wow honey you look really bad can I get you something.” (I know guys that do this…SMH) Instead, be overly accommodating while she’s sick and help nurse her to back to being healthy.
SWITCH IT UP
I’ll use the same example about getting dressed and being stunning. Let’s say you are going on weekly dates and she is “stunning” every time, now is the time to address something else i.e. maybe her hair style is different, maybe she applied her makeup different, notice the perfume she is wearing, maybe her derrière is noticeably attractive in the outfit. If she is stunning your options are endless.
NOTICE THE OBVIOUS OPPORTUNITIES
So now you are on your date, you’re sitting across from each other at the dinner table and the light hits her perfectly. Be a gentleman and express it. I’m telling you that because you’re dining out it’s not only appreciated it now becomes more memorable because it’s attached to an event. By doing this you are setting the mood. You might even get lucky at the end of the night (wink wink).
You’re at the dinner table and you waitress is obviously attractive, DO NOT compliment her on anything, especially if you’ve NOT complimented your woman. Not only will you strike out, you may just sleep in the dog house. You’ve just set a bad tone for the rest of your evening. If you compliment your woman regularly, she’s confident and comfortable in her skin then it may not be a problem. If you’re not sure be safe and don’t do it! The waitress will be just fine. She probably hears it all day anyway.
I’m sure complimenting your mate played an intricate role while dating. Did you stop? If so, why? Men, some of you need to step up your game and make your woman a priority; show her that you are still very much attracted to her. Start by tweaking those compliments will ya. Thanks for the tip Edwin, it’s a keeper 😉