The journey on writing my book has been so much fun. I love reading what others have to say about relationships. I may not agree with all but without judgement, I appreciate other perspectives. Recently, I started this campaign as part of my book, “101 Tips for a Successful Relationship.” To date, I’ve received numerous tips, some of which will be featured in my book. If you’d like to be a part of this wonderful collection, simply click here.
Here’s a tip that was recently submitted…
Having been in a relationship as long as I have, I can honestly and wholeheartedly say I agree 1000% with Roxanne. She’s addressed quite a bit in this tip but what grabs my attention most in this particular tip was “keep your marriage between you and your spouse.” There are countless number of stories, problems, etc. that I’ve shared with people both inside and out of my family about my relationship that I regret. As a young couple I wish someone had expressed the importance of keeping certain things private. Friends are one thing because they come and they go, but family is forever. Once you share things with family it somehow comes back to haunt and even hurt you. Unfortunately, for me I have far too many examples of this, and sadly there’s nothing I can do about it now except to learn and grow from it.
Your relationship is meant to be between you and your partner. Not between you, your partner, your best friend, your in-laws, your siblings, your parents; some things need to remain private. For example how much money you make, how much you paid for your house, what is your monthly car payment? Stop trying to balance my checkbook and focus on your own. I mean seriously why do you need to know the answer to these questions? All you need to know is that I’m thriving and happy parking my new car in my new home with the money I make doing what I love PERIOD!
I get there may be times you need to vent and or speak to someone outside of your mate, especially as a woman. Women, we want to talk about everything, but don’t include ALL of the details or specifics. Also think long and hard about who you are sharing this information with. Nowadays I just pray about it because I know in the end whatever “it” is, it will work itself out…it always does.
Thanks for the tip Roxanne. It’s a definite keeper.